Wedding dress!!

The first thing on my mind when I think about wedding is always the dress.
So, being very excited, I drag my housemate to Jakel with me as they are having the end of season sale.

Once there, my mind goes blank.
I’m not sure what colour I want.
What kind of lace I want (beaded, non beaded, blab la)
Whether is it a lace or chiffon?

And with the sales girl who keeps pointing everything to me, I’m clueless!

So people, don’t be like me.

Do NOT rush to any shops without checking out bridal boutique.

Go there, try on a few. Find what kind of cut u like, what kind of material u want. Whether u want a whole beaded lace or beaded chiffon. Or both!
And most importantly, ask how much if u want to rent and if u want them to tailor it for you.

As far as my browsing goes, the cheapest rate for tailoring the bride dress is RM 250. If u want some beads, then it’s much higher. (I prefer buying the material with beads, so save some money on that).

And as for rental, there are as low as RM 200 but the kind I like (full lace) is around RM 600. And if u prefers to have it, it can cost u at minimum RM1000!! Yeah, I wish I take sewing classes back then.

A bride usually dreams to wear different dress at each event; nikah, reception (bride side) and reception on the groom side.

Okey, baju nikah usually a white baju kurung moden. I like simple ones, plain chiffon with few beads on it. The rental is around RM 300, and to own it, RM 800. Of course, there are other nice ones which costs lower. I guess my simple taste is expensive! Huhuh

So, go figure how much wedding dresses alone can costs u? I say, roughly around RM 2,000!

However, there are cheap ways to own wedding dresses.

When people said lace/any materials is cheap in Bandung, it’s true.
I never been to Bandung but I got my aunty to buy for me a lace from there. Costs me RM400, 4 meter full beaded with satin lining. And I love it. That kind of material can costs me around RM600+ during Jakel sales.

And I got another friend of mine who tailor all her wedding dresses in Jakarta (she happen to work there! Lucky girl!). A very nice baju nikah with beaded only costs her RM 400! That’s the rental rate in Malaysia! And the dress she wore during her reception was so beautiful. It got colorful stones and very nice cutting. In Malaysia it would have cost her roughly RM 3K but she only spends RM 1K on it!!

Oh, how I wish I could fly to Jakarta. How I wish I’m not an auditor and have a lot of free time to prepare for my wedding, huhuh.

Next topic: Tailor!! ( I still haven’t decided which tailor I want to go to!! Ughhh.. pening pening)

I'm Engaged!!

08/01/2009

So, I guess I’m engaged :P

It was held on 1st January 2009, begin the new year with a big step.
I’m sorry to those who were not informed. It’s just a simple event, no hantaran, no khemah or pelamin etc. Just me, his family, my family and a ring. Infact, less than 5 people know about this.. hehehe.

I think it’s a good things everything was simple. I didn’t want to get engaged anyway, want to go straight to tok kadi.. hahahha

Initially we want our parents to meet each other, so I thought just do ‘merisik’ lah. But then they decided to discuss about wedding date and preparation everything and so it turn into engagement ceremony.

So people, clear off your calendar for end of June (MAYBE 27th). To my dear friends, please please come. I know Kedah is far but airlines are having sale right now!! Seriously, I flew with MAS last weekend and it’s only worth RM60!! Way cheaper than Air Asia. Of course, advance booking is required.

June may seem far but with I’m still not sure if I’ve got time to do preparation. Heck, checking out wedding dresses give me headache okay!! I even spent 2 hours at one goldsmith to find my engagement ring!! Aiyoooo

The beginning

10/12/2008

So, we decided to get married.
And I’m actually very scared of it.
It’s not that I’m scared of the commitment.
I’m scared of losing the love.

I’ve seen so many unhappy marriages that made me wonder, how sure I am that my marriage won’t ended up that road.

Yes, there’s no way to confirm which path I will end up. So, either goes with my fear and end up being alone for the rest of my life or, get married and tried as best as my partner and I can to make sure the marriage works!

I read somewhere that marriage will work if these 2 people involved work together. It is not about finding your true love or the right partner. Or ‘The One’. It will work when both people work together to make it work. And both people respect each other. I do think that most marriage screw up when respect is no longer in place. Ego took over. Then, arguments began.

Another thing that made me scared of marriage is I’m afraid he will change after we got married. I’m very scared when I read about wife being beaten up by the husband. Especially when before marriage, the guy was so soft spoken, “pijak semut pon tak mati”.
Anyway, my friends and I decided to keep watch on each other. If friends think I need help, then they must help me. Shouldn’t left me being beaten up in the name of love.

Well, I just hope and pray my marriage going to be ok. There might be small arguments here and there, just hope it always small. Not big. No slapping etc. I am very scared of being abused that I always told him, anything happen, I will file for a divorce. I hope I will not end up like some women that letting their husband abused them with a hope that he will change. A leopard cannot change its spot.